Marriage

Last week we talked about Marriage.  I thought it was really really interesting especially since I just got married not to long ago.  We talked about adjusting to marriage at the beginning.  Brother Williams gave the example of getting used to sleeping in the same bed with somebody else.  I could really relate to him.  I really like the room to be SUPER cold and my wife liked it to be pretty warm.  Now I think I have converted her to the cold side but it is funny how many things you run into that you just didnt think would ever become a problem.  Something that really has been a challenge for us is that my wife is doesn't know how to take a break and I like to relax at the end of the day.  That is just differences in our personalities.  It is a constant battle of trying to figure out the best way to go about doing things.  I really liked this weeks lessons and learning more about marriage

Preparing for Marriage

I have enjoyed this week a lot.  Me and Malorie just got married...well 7 months ago today!  It was a long road preparing for marriage.  We knew each other for 7 years before we got married....it took me a long time to convince her I was the right one.  I liked seeing some of the similarities and differences other people had to go thru.  Some things I had never even thought of.  Also there are alot of potential challenges that you really don't see before marriage....even though you think you do.  Its good to discuss some of those challenges and we did that in class.  Just differences that people have.  It has been a bit of a struggle because before you get married you don't fight a lot if at all.  But a lot of time you will have dissagreements in marriage and it is not a bad thing...even though it seems really bad at the time.

Week 3...I think?

This week has been very interesting.  I really enjoyed exploring the family.  Especially the unwritten rules and the boundaries.  I really had a hard time coming up with rules but once everybody kinda went thru theirs it made me think about more that we did have.  We had our seats at the dinner table.  Nobody ever assigned them or anything like that but we just sat there.  haha but the only thing was, if I sat in someone elses seat then I would have to move but if my sisters sat in my seat they didn't have to move.  Also another rule that I thought of was that everyone gave Dad a hug before he left for work...if you were up.  Most mornings Dad would get us ready for school and then he would get ready.  By the time he left we were mostly downstairs eating breakfast.  We all got up and gave him a hug.  I think my sister started doing it when we were little and then we all did it.  Even until I moved out and came to school...I was 22 and would give him a hug after he came back for lunch break. 

I also really enjoyed exploring family boundaries.  Even though I'm not sure I quite understand them yet.  I think for the most part my parents had a very rigid boundary between each other and the kids but the kids had white picket fences or even closer at different points.  I really am enjoying this class and find it fascinating to study the family and how they are made up.  All the different subsystems really makes all families different.

Family Relations Week 1 and 2

These first few weeks of class have been very interesting.  I think the biggest thing that I have learned is you cannot just trust what you hear.  We looked at a study done by the APA that came to the conclusion that there is no difference between homosexual and heterosexual parents.  This really scared me because they said they had so much evidence.  But when you actually looked at the data you realized that most of the time they had no comparison groups or when they did it was single moms.  Only a few of the studies actually compared heterosexual parents and homosexual parents.  We talked a lot all week about not just trusting something because you think it is trustworthy and how to find out how legitimate something actually is.